The Toltec approach, or Toltec agreement, stems from Mayan culture. Its message is disarmingly simple: “We live according to a number of limiting beliefs that create needless suffering and keep us from fulfilling ourselves.” Today, this approach is much sought after by those who wish to breathe new life into their days. Don Miguel Ruiz, a master of wisdom, walks us through the 4 Toltec agreements to adopt.
What are the 4 Toltec agreements to adopt?
Toltec agreement #1: May my word be impeccable
Avoid words that turn against you, and avoid gossiping about others. Instead, turn your tongue seven times in your mouth before you speak!
Toltec approach #2: Whatever happens, I don't take it personally
You are not responsible for other people's actions. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality. The key to no longer being wounded by their negative words and deeds is to realise that these belong to them.
Toltec agreement #3: I no longer make assumptions
We tend to make assumptions about everything and to ascribe intentions to others that are often mistaken. The trouble is that we take them for the truth. Communicate with others as clearly as you possibly can, so as to avoid misunderstandings and drama. If you don't understand, ask! Have the courage to put questions and to say what you want, until everything is as clear as it can be.
Toltec agreement #4: I always do my best
Whatever the circumstances, always do your best and you will spare yourself guilt, frustration and regret. The secret is to act because you genuinely want to, not because you expect a reward in return!
| Toltec agreement | Principle |
|---|---|
| #1 May my word be impeccable | Avoid words that turn against you, and avoid gossiping about others |
| #2 I don't take it personally | Other people's words and actions are a projection of their own reality, not yours |
| #3 I no longer make assumptions | Communicate clearly and ask questions to avoid misunderstandings and drama |
| #4 I always do my best | Act out of genuine desire, not for a reward, to spare yourself guilt, frustration and regret |
