Tired of Love Falling Apart? Discover the Myths That Ruin Everything!
Published on August 30, 2020
Has love become more complicated today? Many love stories seem shaped by mistaken beliefs — Hollywood and Disney have played a large part in that. Accepting this reality could pave the way to a truer kind of happiness as a couple. Here are six myths about love worth knowing.
Myth
What it implies
How to use it
The One
Belief in a single “other” who would put an end to our sense of incompleteness, rooted since early childhood
There are several “right” people; the relationship is built and evolves together
Good or Bad Timing
The success of a relationship would depend on outside factors (maktoub, or fate)
Only inner timing counts: we are responsible for our own ability to open up to the other person
Love Under Control
The success of the couple would depend solely on the effort invested in it
The couple is a living entity that evolves; it is built on exchange, not effort alone
Fusion (1+1=1)
Believing that merging into the other guarantees security and lasting love
Fusion is natural at the start of a relationship, but each partner must later reclaim their autonomy
Mirror Love
Looking for a partner who resembles us to avoid unpleasant surprises
Compatibility of values matters more than resemblance; difference keeps desire alive
Love as a Tool for Personal Growth
You would need to know yourself perfectly to love fully
Self-knowledge is constantly evolving; introspection remains useful, without becoming an absolute condition
By Houda Chouk
Frequently asked questions
Does “the one right person” really exist?
According to this analysis, no: there are said to be several compatible people, and it's the relationship itself that is built and shapes the couple over time.
Is a relationship that begins right after a breakup doomed to fail?
Not necessarily: the myth of “bad timing” rests on a cultural belief rather than an absolute rule; only each person's inner feeling truly counts.
Do you need to resemble your partner to be happy as a couple?
No: compatibility of values and outlook on life is thought to matter more than resemblance, and a degree of difference is thought to keep desire alive.
